When my mom told me that I couldn't join, I was devastated. Then I told her: "Mom, I love you a lot but, this is my life. I'm going to chose my future and I chose the Army. When I hit adulthood, you have no choice ma, you better understand that (got a bit fed up). I don't mind you giving me suggestions and I appreciate it a lot, but this is what I want to do." It hit her hard because she had high hopes for me becoming a doctor (I have a real knack for medical stuff). After a while, she loosened up a bit, but only on the condition that I would be a professional. I told her I was going to be an Officer and attend a the Military College here in Canada. But as I've seen how Officers are acting all like their better than the soldiers all the time over where I am (I'm in Army Cadets in an Armory so I see how the Officers act). I've been having hard second thoughts about my Officer future (other reasons too) and been thinking hard on becoming a Mechanic (something I'd like to do) and be a tanker (gunner or something) in a Leopard 2A6M CAN. She can't accept anything but an Officer, but I have told her that she no longer has any choice in my future (maybe a bit harsh but it's the truth). I'm pretty sure on that future, but I was this sure on being an officer so it could change (but I've always loved tanks so I wouldn't count on it). Once you become an adult, they'll have no say. Further more if don't live with them. Best of luck and keep trying because this is YOUR future, not theirs!