(sorry to go off topic here), but I think that NOT being submissive and not being a follower has put me in hot water many times. In the end I just got fed up and started my own forum. Sunnyds. It is so good being able to say what I want and letting others having a say without having to worry about hierarchy and being the new kid on the block. Everyone is treated as an equal, regardless of how long they have been there, and regardless of who their buddies are. In my opinion that's how it should be.
Clay. now you have reminded me of that poem by David Frost: 'The road not taken'.