Why do guys have to be such jerks? - Page 3




 
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Why do guys have to be such jerks?
 
December 19th, 2005  
NavyBrat88
 
 
Why do guys have to be such jerks?
thanks a lot for the advice >*CrAzY*<
December 20th, 2005  
Rabs
 
 
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So, i went to the movies this weekend with that guy. Once more, I spent the movie in his arms. Thing is, when we left the movie, he didn't take them away. He kept his arm around me and holding my hand until we got out of the theater and to my friends car.

So, she thinks he likes me. I think he'll just continue to persue another chick and the cycle will continue.





So chick, all I can tell you is, ENJOY IT! You are at the prime of life, ENJOY being single. ENJOY no commitment. I am!

So, you enjoy being played....nice!

Then one day he loves and you beleive him (cause men are great liars) and then he decides he was just kidding the next day (who knows what happend the night before, i dont know you so I wont judge.) So your heartbroken and then its to guys like myself to fix the problem.

http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.htm

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Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what *******s guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
December 20th, 2005  
Chief Bones
 
 
I can't believe that this thread is still alive and kicking.

Young men and women view the world through jaundiced eyes, grow older, grow intellectually and emotionally and then become older.

For the young - just remember - youth will also pass.

When you are older you will look back and you will realize that what was so important was nothing more than a grain of sand along the road of life.

Enjoy it while you are young. It only comes along once in a lifetime.
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Why do guys have to be such jerks?
December 20th, 2005  
LIPS
 
 
With women you dont learn to understand them you just learn to love them
December 20th, 2005  
mzspaztastic
 
 
because guys, in my experience, fully believe they are ready for a relationship. he says he loves you because he does, he looks you up and down because he finds you attractive, and he flirts because he likes you. but he's not ready to take on the responsibility of an actual relationship. ive been in a situaion like that with a guy for almost a year now....but weve come to terms with reality. he cares, but hes scared. i care, but ive been burned. not to mention his best friend dating my former best friend and a former one nighter giving me crap at work because shes jealous...that just adds more problems. end result: we're friends, we care, but dating is just not an option with all of the circumstances. but we dont share that information with anyone else. too much drama both at work and in personal life.
December 20th, 2005  
CanadianCowgirl
 
 
I think it's a maturity thing. Guys always will look at women and admire a nice looking woman, and enjoy attention received from a woman; it's the nature of the beast. But as they get older or at least more mature they handle it better than they might have when they were 15...
December 24th, 2005  
Tessa
 
 
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Originally Posted by NavyBrat88
Please tell me why guys think they can flirt with a girl, constantly tell her he loves her, even look her up and down a lot, and yet not want to go out with you?
They weren't blessed with the intelligence, dear. You see, they're scared of our superior ways.. and trust me, they will never admit it.
December 25th, 2005  
C/2nd Lt Robot
 
 
Conceited aren't we, SilverPhoenix? Or should I say, aren't we just a tad chauvinistic?
December 25th, 2005  
Navy Boy
 
 
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Originally Posted by NavyBrat88
Please tell me why guys think they can flirt with a girl, constantly tell her he loves her, even look her up and down a lot, and yet not want to go out with you?
That's a guys thing to know lol.
December 25th, 2005  
Tessa
 
 
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Originally Posted by C/2nd Lt Robot
Conceited aren't we, SilverPhoenix? Or should I say, aren't we just a tad chauvinistic?
Well, we have to have a bit of humor.

But to be honest, most of the times I think guys are just too shy to actually go for it. At least the ones I've met that describes this type of behaviour. Such as eyeing up and down and show interest but not making a real move.