brinktk
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You are a combat veteran before you went into combat what did you do?
Did you prepare as best you could for what you were going to face, think through your actions etc. or did you just get up in the morning and think "Yay I am invading Iraq today" and run off towards Baghdad with a packet of Doritos and a rifle under your arm?
Men and women need to realise life is a struggle from start to finish and it is up to the individual to primarily get themselves through it and then pull those around them through as best they can it is not about living in each others pockets until you cant stand each other any more and going through some acrimonious court case.
So my answer to your questions is, you plan for success and failure, you analyse every situation and you do what is right for you and if it goes wrong you adapt and move on but this applies to everyone.
Which means yes you get an education, you get a job and chances are you will work until your bones fall out but realise you will make mistakes so learn from those mistakes and stop repeating them time after time and for the love of what ever deity you want to back stop trying to blame other people for the mistakes you make just make the right call for you and move on.
Exactly although you have to analyse the situation to realise you have a nutcase or loser.
Here is another option how about going through life being yourself rather than molding yourself to the personality of those you are trying to impress, if a relationship is going to work it will be because of who you are not who you are trying to be this week.
That is precisely the point. Everyone needs to be taught to plan for these things because this is reality. I don't know where you found in anything I said that I am finger pointing. Identifying the problem, yes. Allowing that problem to win, absolutely not.
I don't think I EVER said that people won't make mistakes and shouldn't learn from them. I actually think that men, as a whole, are learning from the mistakes of others and themselves. That it is a minefield out there and are making a perfectly logical conclusion to forgo that game altogether.
That's why, as I am observing here at my university, young males are simply avoiding women altogether. They know a simple accusation will get them expelled at the very least and sent to prison at the most. Even if they are exonerated in the end, recovering will be difficult. Meanwhile, there are signs all over the campus stating "Don't be THAT guy" or "MEN, It isn't okay to rape"...as if we are cavemen that need to be reminded of that. They have learned that if they protest this, a proverbial shit storm will arise and they will either be shamed into compliance or they will be threatened with expulsion once again...(not to mention the raving lunatic gender studies majors throwing gasoline on the whole thing with claims of rape apologist or misogynist). And this is in Oklahoma...I can't imagine how it is on the coasts...
That is called planning for it. They can't win either way. Times have changed and I'm not sure if older generations are in the know about these things. This IS happening and it isn't just flooding into academia. It is flooding into the workplace, and even into the military. (with a recognized backlash from the rank and file in the Army about the whole thing and a surprisingly reasonable response from the Army leadership recently acknowledging this backlash). So...they are simply walking away until the world comes to their senses...going on strike I suppose. A perfectly rational response.
More of this is being pushed, it is simply a matter of time...
[ame="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vp8tToFv-bA"]Feminism and the Disposable Male - YouTube[/ame]
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