Agreed, this is a debate that will never have a happy ending for both sides. I'm a great believer in the saying " my house, my rules".
That way there can be no mistakes and if one party doesn't like it, then they can walk away
I tend to live my life by some assertive rights, it makes life easier and come from a book called when I say no I feel guilty. Perhaps if some people had perused it then they would have a better understanding of each other. I shall post all ten quoted but I just choose what I want and when I want.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people's problems.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT IV: You have the right to change your mind.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT V: You have the right to make mistakes -- and be responsible for them.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT VI: You have the right to say, "I don't know."
ASSERTIVE RIGHT VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
ASSERTIVE RIGHT IX: You have the right to say, "I don't understand."
ASSERTIVE RIGHT X: You have the right to say, "I don't care."
Most people unwittingly live subservient lives, bowing down to the wills and rules and petty by-laws of people and local governments, why?
My response to the op was an outrage bus, not because I wanted to annoy or offend, but because I can and it is relevant