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How are children suppose to be raised?
 
July 13th, 2005  
03USMC
 
 
How are children suppose to be raised?
I tried the remedial PT with my oldest and it worked. The youngest on the other hand thinks it's a game.

I totally agree with setting an example by your own actions.

IMO you provide your children with the example and tools. But after a certain age it's up to them what they make of them.
July 13th, 2005  
Italian Guy
 
 
Not a parent yet, but hope I can be helpful.
I think most of what has been said in here is correct, but I would also say that, luckily or unfortunately, you can't be a different parent than the very person you are. I mean don't try so hard to be a certain type of person, because you will fail if that's not truly yourself. You might be 33 % gentle, 33% authoritarian, 33& of whatsoever you are suggested to be, but you won't be able to fake it for too long.
The kids will somehow "smell it" if you know what I mean. What type of parent you be depends almost entirely on what type of parent you had. Wait before drawing any conclusion though: what I mean is that if you had a bad example (which happens more often than thought) you will treasure your experience and learn not to do and learn a lot from that.
Same if you had a good balanced example at home: it will come out natural for you how to deal with your kids.
Be firm in your principles and provide him with a set of principles in which YOU have to show you believe. Doesnt matter if he aint gonna believe in those same principles or attitudes, but he will see what a man should be like.
Nonetheless, don't be afraid of showing your weak side, at time, it will make him intelligent, understanding and sensitive.
In the end, be yourself and if you're a good and balanced person you will have no big problem. My 2 cents.
July 13th, 2005  
greenarmy1980
 
 
I think that I am getting a lot of information. I have taken childhood development courses when I was in college in my younger years, those classes I do not know if they will assist me or not. It has been a while. I took them when I found out that my GF was pregnant, then I found out that it was not my baby and I discontinued those classes and took up a focus on Psychology. So I know a little and it basically rehashes what I have learned. So basically all I can do is try and raise them the best that I can and hope for the best.
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How are children suppose to be raised?
July 13th, 2005  
Italian Guy
 
 
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Originally Posted by greenarmy1980
I think that I am getting a lot of information. I have taken childhood development courses when I was in college in my younger years, those classes I do not know if they will assist me or not. It has been a while. I took them when I found out that my GF was pregnant, then I found out that it was not my baby and I discontinued those classes and took up a focus on Psychology. So I know a little and it basically rehashes what I have learned. So basically all I can do is try and raise them the best that I can and hope for the best.
Sure man, don't worry too much. Do your utmost and let go. As far as him/her not being your baby, forget he/she is not and he/she will forget back. We are with you man.
July 13th, 2005  
greenarmy1980
 
 
I am almost looking at this as a CA mission, to win the hearts and minds.... is that bad?
July 13th, 2005  
Missileer
 
 
There's always the thing I most feared when I was at "that age", the old "just wait `til your Father gets home young man".

Who the Parents are all of a sudden doesn't matter when you see the little person for the first time. At that moment, your heart will be shared with him/her. The old saw about any man can be a Father, but it takes a special man to be a Dad is and will always be one of the eternal truths of life. My Wife and I have shared over 43 years of Marriage but there is a bond between Dad and Son or Daughter that is unique. The same is true for Mom and the little ones. It's hard to explain but when they are sad, you are, when they are happy, you are. When they are older and experience a first heartbreak, half of yours will feel the same heartbreak.
July 14th, 2005  
Italian Guy
 
 
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Who the Parents are all of a sudden doesn't matter when you see the little person for the first time.
I bow to this successful parenting experience and to this awesome presentation. My bad if you think I was wrong on that.
July 14th, 2005  
Missileer
 
 
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Originally Posted by Italian Guy
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Originally Posted by Missileer
Who the Parents are all of a sudden doesn't matter when you see the little person for the first time.
I bow to this successful parenting experience and to this awesome presentation. My bad if you think I was wrong on that.
I think you and are saying the same thing, Italian Guy.
July 14th, 2005  
greenarmy1980
 
 
You all have been a great help in helping me understand the dynamics of raising a child. Unfortunately the relationship did not work out once she found out that I may be deployed again real soon. I am just glad it happened now and not while I was on deployment.
July 14th, 2005  
Italian Guy
 
 
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I think you and I are saying the same thing, Italian Guy.
Yeah. We get on with each other, hunny