does anyone remember an incident that occured a long time ago where a young man was an air traffic controller for a military branch (not sure which one) and a major crash occured and the young man was blamed for it and he made a quote saying "the military uses you like a dixie cup. they use you then throw you away" ? if anyone remembers this or has information on it, i would appreciate your help.

no, dont recall that, but that quote is right.

That goes true for a lot of organizations.
And some families as well. Fortunately not mine.