A Can of Man
Je suis aware
That's not being brave, that's being dumb. Based on what people have told me I have no absolutely no problem of NOT experiencing that firsthand, and its not that I am afraid, its because I don't want those types of horrible memories haunting me the rest of my life. And that's not being a coward, its being smart. Also I can always tell those who have seen the real darkside and those that haven't. Those who have generally don't go about bragging about it as if we are supposed to be impressed. I am not impressed by you.
Great, you just inadvertently called everyone who's ever fought for the their country or cause "dumb" up to and including those who fought for America's independence.
Yes you don't want those memories haunting you for the rest of your life but in the end someone needs to.
My grandparents also lived under similar conditions as your folks as well. And they didn't need to had enough folks been willing to take those risks instead.
When there weren't enough, it looked like it was pretty much over but fortunately America had enough people willing to face death and those fears.
I'm not active duty right now, but it may not always be that way. If I do get a chance to be on the line again, I will take it. I've heard the stories from the Japanese Colonial Era through to the Korean War and beyond and I'd rather be one of the guys having to deal with it than sit back and let the fight get to our own folks.
Having said that, military service isn't the only thing in the world that's worthy of recognition. You can argue that without the military, social stability would be zero from outside invaders and no normal life can continue, but on the flip side if everyone was military, our country's standard of living would drop because the economy wouldn't work. And when you consider that you have kids to send to school and hospitals to go to when sick, that's pretty darn important.
I didn't really care whether or not someone thanked me or not for my service... and I only got the occasional thank you because I served even when I could have easily weasled out, and then I chose the *hard* service. Actually it was sort of weird because most of them assumed I was some kind of patriot which wasn't really one of my major motivations.
For the veterans: who cares if someone appreciates, respects or not? That's their right. If they were all required to love the military and never disagree with the military or ever argue with a military or former military person, all these rights we are supposedly protecting would have been violated, no?
For the civilians: The guys in the military sacrifice so much (marriage, money, physical health, mental health, life, etc.) for comparitively very little so please try not to push too many buttons. Understand that at times (often in fact) military folks can be very much on the edge, angry, depressed etc., because that's just a part of their life much more so than most folks in the civilian world.
I think we've gotten it wrong and we really should be trying to understand each other here rather than put each other down.