Anya1982 said:
This is a question to see how a man would react:
A girl you have been seeing for a few weeks tells you she is pregnant. Also that she wants abortion as she can't financal support her or the baby.
You on the other hand, would you:
A) stay with her as you do actually like her and the baby is both your responsibility.
B)Stay with her only for the baby.
C) tell her to abort as you don't want a child.
D) Tell her your standby on what ever she wants.
I didn't see one very obvious option -- "Encourage her to have the baby and then put it up for adoption." This scenario his very close to home for me. My wife and I are not capable of having children on our own. We both love children and I have no doubt that we would make wonderful parents.
If a couple in that situation truly believe that they have the compatability and the right stuff to stick together, okay great. Good for them. Get married, keep the baby and hopefully everything works out best. Statistically, this scenario has a pretty lousy success rate. About 90% of those couples end up getting divorced or splitting up. This eventually leads to the child that brought them together becoming the object of endless feuds and court battles. No child would want to have to live through that mess. They shouldn't have to either.
Okay, so the young man involved decided he isn't going to stick with the mother. They hardly know each other after all. How can it work? Keeping the baby seems like the responsible thing to do for that mother, in many people's opinion. I disagree. Especially if she is very very young, she pretty much guaranteed that she cannot pursue her own dreams anymore. She doesn't have time. She's trying to be mommy and daddy at the same time, and in whatever time is left, she is trying to earn enough money to feed and clothe herself and her child. Not much wiggle room there for such pursuits as a career, an education and finding the right person to spend the rest of your life with. The sacrifice is very noble and all, but why do it if you don't actually have to?
Based on all of that, the best option you offered was abortion in the vast majority of cases. But consider something: For every couple that opts for the abortion, that is one more child that my wife and I cannot have. One more child that we could have loved as our own for a llifetime. Make a long story short, I really hate abortion. If you are so sure you don't want your baby, can I ask a favor? Instead of killing it, can my wife and I have it PLEASE??