Wife re-marrying after you die in combat? - Page 2




 
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Boots
 
November 12th, 2004  
mdvaden
 
 
Me, I'd go to scripture to make that decision.

Otherwise, I heard this from a minister once when he was trying to "lighten up" a serious topic.

There was this woman, and in her life, she had a total of 4 husbands. The second, third and fourth marriages were all after a previous husband died.

The first was a banker. The second was a film director. The third was was a minister, and the final husband was a mortician.

Many people wondered about her choice of husbands.

One day, whe a friend asked her, she responded:

"It's very simple - one for the money, two for the show, three to get ready, and four to go !!"
November 12th, 2004  
USAFAUX2004
 
 
well lets say you crash in a helicopter in iraq...you loose your memory and forget who you are. You are listed as M.I.A and no one knows any thing. she remarries and then somehow you are found and brought back to the states years after.
November 12th, 2004  
03USMC
 
 
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Originally Posted by scott.moore
When your dead your dead. Wouldnt your want your wife to be as happy as possible after you are gone because for her life must still go on.
Thats the way I felt when my wife and I had the discussion.
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Boots
November 12th, 2004  
A Can of Man
 
 
hmmmm... I think there was a JAG episode like this. lol

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Originally Posted by drilldownmaster2004
well lets say you crash in a helicopter in iraq...you loose your memory and forget who you are. You are listed as M.I.A and no one knows any thing. she remarries and then somehow you are found and brought back to the states years after.
November 12th, 2004  
Duty Honor Country
 
 
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Originally Posted by the_13th_redneck
For soldiers on deployment, yeah I think it'd be really hard. Junior ranks more likely to get killed or wounded.
So wait, American soldiers don't stay in barracks?
Of course more lower ranking soldiers are going to die. In a infantry company, there is around 1 captain, 6 LT's, 5 Sergeant First Class, 16 Staff Sergeants, 35 Sergeants, a few corporals and 75 or so lower enlisted soldiers. My numbers are most likely off a little, but you can see why there are more lower ranking soldiers killed in Iraq.

When you are married, you either have to live on or off post. As a single soldier, once you are a sergeant, you are given the option of living off base. There is no rule saying you have to live in the barracks. Some soldiers will maintain barrack room while living off post. BUT you will not get BAS or BAH unless you are married or Sergeant or higher

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Originally Posted by drilldownmaster2004
well lets say you crash in a helicopter in iraq...you loose your memory and forget who you are. You are listed as M.I.A and no one knows any thing. she remarries and then somehow you are found and brought back to the states years after.
I have not heard anything like that happen in the US military, but something like that happened to an Indian soldier 2 months ago

Freed Indian soldier finds wife remarried

NEW DELHI: An Indian soldier imprisoned by Pakistan for five years after conflict in Kashmir returned home to find his wife married to another man and pregnant, reports said on Monday. A village council has tried to settle the matter by declaring the woman’s second marriage void, triggering a public domestic battle over whether the soldier will accept the child. Mohammed Arif and Jagsir Singh had gone missing in the 1999 conflict in Kashmir’s Kargil region and the Indian army had declared them deserters...
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November 12th, 2004  
USAFAUX2004
 
 
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Originally Posted by the_13th_redneck
hmmmm... I think there was a JAG episode like this. lol

Quote:
Originally Posted by drilldownmaster2004
well lets say you crash in a helicopter in iraq...you loose your memory and forget who you are. You are listed as M.I.A and no one knows any thing. she remarries and then somehow you are found and brought back to the states years after.

I think there was...maybe thats why it came to mind
November 13th, 2004  
Focus Fate
 
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well lets say you crash in a helicopter in iraq...you loose your memory and forget who you are. You are listed as M.I.A and no one knows any thing. she remarries and then somehow you are found and brought back to the states years after.

That would deffinatly suck
November 13th, 2004  
USAFAUX2004
 
 
but what do you think is going to happen?
November 13th, 2004  
Focus Fate
 
Well I finnally asked her about it, well both. She said the only way she'd remarry would be not in a "in-love" kind of way, just in a way where someone could help with the kids (If we had any at the time I died). I asked her about the MIA thing and she was REALLY opposed to the idea of re-marrying if I was MIA. Basically her words were "Hell no! If there's a body thats one thing. But if its MIA... just no!" So I'm glad I talked to her about it Thanks guys
November 13th, 2004  
Missileer
 
 
Time is the great healer. I think after a reasonable amount of time, a woman should not have to feel guilty about taking another husband if it's for the right reasons. If he's a good man and loves her, try for a happy life. They say the first true love stays just as strong as the first day but there is a different kind of love that begins after a time and will never be the same but nevertheless just as strong. My Mother-in-Law went through losing two husbands and she talks about both men as if they were the same man. I think that is a type of healing the heart.