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Boots
 
February 14th, 2005  
Anya1982
 
 

Topic: hey hey


Hey lady, good news if your are happy with it!

Sounds like your parents are very supportive with your choice, so what if the father don't stick around, you got the love from your family.

If it comes to money and the guy don't want nothing to do with it, thats what CSA is for.

I am sure with the love and help from people around you, you will turn out to be a good mother.

All the best

xxxx

February 14th, 2005  
Gelinas
 
I've got an update about the father...since he is in his first year of university he doesn't want any distractions he told me that I should have made him wear a condom and it's my fault that he didn't so I should have to raise the baby. I don't want it to sound like I'm the "victim" here, but what was he doing sleeping with someone who's only 16? The idiot says a lot of things, I guess I was just stupid enough to believe what he said.
February 14th, 2005  
chewie_nz
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Gelinas
I've got an update about the father...since he is in his first year of university he doesn't want any distractions he told me that I should have made him wear a condom and it's my fault that he didn't so I should have to raise the baby. I don't want it to sound like I'm the "victim" here, but what was he doing sleeping with someone who's only 16? The idiot says a lot of things, I guess I was just stupid enough to believe what he said.
thats bull. a condom is something that you both should've been aware of, esp with him being the older party...hell, don't people have STD's in canada??? but him turning around and saying that you should've "made" him is bollox. i wouldn't expect this guy to stick around, and it's going to affect him for the rest of his life (child support etc) i've seen some people change their attitudes when the child is born....but don't bank on it.
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February 14th, 2005  
Vitaly
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Gelinas
I've got an update about the father...since he is in his first year of university he doesn't want any distractions :x he told me that I should have made him wear a condom and it's my fault that he didn't so I should have to raise the baby. I don't want it to sound like I'm the "victim" here, but what was he doing sleeping with someone who's only 16? The idiot says a lot of things, I guess I was just stupid enough to believe what he said.
I was worried that this would happen when I first seen this.
February 14th, 2005  
Gelinas
 
I think he is right though, I should have made him get one. But in my defence, he said he didn't have any so I thought "Alright, that's ok, it's not like I'm gonna get pregnant or anything." But the people I most blame for this, is my parents, though they may be caring and supportive now they weren't before. They always played favorites with me and my brother and since my brother had cancer a few years ago all their attention went to him. So I needed attention and this guy payed attention to me, and they're still paying more attention to my brother!


So to all the parents on this board, don't play favorites with your kids! You don't want your daughters telling you they're pregnant do you?
February 14th, 2005  
Charge 7
 
 
Okay I'm going to speak as a parent now so hold on, here comes my .02

First off, we are all responsible for our own actions. Facing that fact is called maturity. Being a parent now yourself you will need to be moving in that direction in a hurry. Your parents didn't get you pregnant - you and your boyfriend did. The consequences of that will be _your_ responsibilty and _his_. It will _not_ be your parents'.

Now as to "playing favorites". Having a child who has cancer is an ordeal I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Your parents are dealing with the possibilty of the end of life for your brother while your's is the bringing into the world new life. They are not comparible. Parents react to what is the worst case most predominently. Your brother's case is far worse than your's and I'm sure if you really think about it you'll agree with that yourself. No parent should be faulted if they pay more attention to the child that has a life threatening illness than they do the child that doesn't. It is a perfectly normal reaction. They are dealing with the idea that that child may not be there to cherish much longer while the other child doesn't have that possibility. I don't mean that it's okay for them to ignore you, however. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like they are though. Try to have some understanding of them. When you bring that little boy into this world you'll see all the more clearly how they feel. Any threat to your son will be paramount among all considerations to you. That's natural and the way it's supposed to be.
February 14th, 2005  
devilwasp
 
Good luck and may you and your baby have good health...
Also if you need support remeber we are here, stay strong!
February 14th, 2005  
Gelinas
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Charge_7
Okay I'm going to speak as a parent now so hold on, here comes my .02

First off, we are all responsible for our own actions. Facing that fact is called maturity. Being a parent now yourself you will need to be moving in that direction in a hurry. Your parents didn't get you pregnant - you and your boyfriend did. The consequences of that will be _your_ responsibilty and _his_. It will _not_ be your parents'.

Now as to "playing favorites". Having a child who has cancer is an ordeal I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Your parents are dealing with the possibilty of the end of life for your brother while your's is the bringing into the world new life. They are not comparible. Parents react to what is the worst case most predominently. Your brother's case is far worse than your's and I'm sure if you really think about it you'll agree with that yourself. No parent should be faulted if they pay more attention to the child that has a life threatening illness than they do the child that doesn't. It is a perfectly normal reaction. They are dealing with the idea that that child may not be there to cherish much longer while the other child doesn't have that possibility. I don't mean that it's okay for them to ignore you, however. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like they are though. Try to have some understanding of them. When you bring that little boy into this world you'll see all the more clearly how they feel. Any threat to your son will be paramount among all considerations to you. That's natural and the way it's supposed to be.
When my brother was in the hospital (He's home now) I had to raise myself. My parents are divorced now and were when my brother was in the hospital..but they spent every single day with him. I would see them like once a week, is it really fair for them to spend that much time with my brother when they had a daughter who needed them as well? My brother wasn't going to die from the cancer, they knew that. You're right, maybe it is immature for me to blame them, but I do know if I'd gotten the attention I needed and deserved I wouldn't be in this situation.
February 14th, 2005  
Vitaly
 
I think that there really isn't any point to look at how or why. Instead prepare for raising your child.
February 15th, 2005  
Joe252
 
good luck boy...and i hope that that father comes around to help you out. like charge said your giving life and you people can cherish it...hes dieing...cant enjoy that..


P.S. you could make a thread on what to name your baby boy lol