How are children suppose to be raised? - Page 2




 
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Boots
 
July 12th, 2005  
Starker
 
i'm not a parent but best advice i can give is there are classes out there as well as books you can read on better ways to raise children, i work at a hospital and we offer courses to new parents
July 12th, 2005  
03USMC
 
 
I am a parent of two girls 17 and 4.

I and my wife believe in setting limits. And more importantly enforcing those limits and addressing negative behavior. First by speaking to the child and second by ethier grounding , restricting and if necessary Yes spanking.
July 13th, 2005  
greenarmy1980
 
 
What to do
1. Mentor your child
2. You are the role model
3. Demonstrate by living up to values that you expect your child to live up too.
4. Teach your children limits and boundaries.
5. The occasional corporal punishment should be utilized with an object not with ones hand.

So far I have what not to do
1. Do not put children in the trunk of the car if they were bad.
2. Do not leave the children in the car when at the grocery store.
3. Do not allow children to go to the park unattended.

I take it this is not a good way to raise children.....
http://www.cnn.com/2005/US/07/12/kid....ap/index.html
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Boots
July 13th, 2005  
AmericanSweetheart
 
 
sounds good to me green!
July 13th, 2005  
greenarmy1980
 
 
Should I implement this with someone for whom I am not the father of?
July 13th, 2005  
AmericanSweetheart
 
 
what stuffing them in a trunk? Probably not local authorities might frown upon it.
July 13th, 2005  
Locke
 
 
but despite all that talk about how to raise a kid properly, this quote is sooo true:
"There are three ways to get something done: (1) Do it yourself. (2) Hire someone to do it for you. (3) Forbid your kids to do it - Anon"
July 13th, 2005  
greenarmy1980
 
 
Not stuffing them in a trunk, but taking care of them, nurturing them...
July 13th, 2005  
Missileer
 
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by greenarmy1980
Not stuffing them in a trunk, but taking care of them, nurturing them...
Ask yourself this, if not me, then who else will do it. I've seen Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents, and Step-parents take on the role and do a great job.
July 13th, 2005  
RnderSafe
 
 
I don't know that there is any one way children are supposed to be raised. A good mix of tenderness, caring, discipline, hard work and responsibility seems to be the best method for me.

My wife and I spend a lot of time instilling morals through experience. Kids will make mistakes and do bad things, and sometimes, you do have to punish them - it may mean a spanking, elevating their feet and knocking out push ups, digging out the fence posts and putting them back, or even the dreaded "we have to talk" method. No matter the punishment, I believe the key is making certain a) you are never angry/emotional when you punish and b) your children always know, whether being good or bad, that you love them.

Being a good example yourself is a huge help in the development of a child. My wife and I always come through on promises that we make, and I never allow my children to see me do something I would tell them not to do. Cursing is good example of that.

It is difficult to raise your children "right." Eventually, they will have to begin making choices for themselves, and all you can do is hope that what you have taught them and instilled in them will help to guide them - and if they do make a mistake, that they trust you enough to come to you about it.

As O3 said, setting limits is very important. I've seen many parents "get tired" and simply give in to their kids. Once you've set limits, stick to them. Kids are like dogs in the sense that if they see weakness, they will exploit it - and it won't be good for them in the long run.