AZ_Infantry
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It ain't good, folks. Wife has cancer. UPDATE PAGE 2
Long post ahead. Tired eyes beware. And, yes, this thread is about my personal real life. I know that meets with disapproval from many, so feel free to click that funny little link of your choice that navigates you away from this particular thread and carry on.
My wife's results are in, and she has cancer. This thread is to keep you all updated on the happenings if you are interested. Consider it my outlet thread, not a whining thread, please. I'm sure I will have my bouts of whining, but...
One thing to know before this seeming dissertation erupts is that, 32 days ago, I gave up the bottle. No VA, no help. Just decided I was tired of it. Now I know why God gave me such peace in my decision.
Most of you know that I could be facing the same thing, but thus far everything seems to be checking out with me. I have another test upcoming, but they believe the problem "down there" with me is a non-prolapsing hemorrhoid that is pretty easy to remove. I guess that can cause severe testicle pain. <shrug> I am no doctor.
My wife, unfortunately, has not fared so well. In a way, this has made our relationship stronger than it ever has been. We used to treat our marriage as granted - we've both done our share of walking away from each other only to come back. It's different this time, but not for the cancer reasons alone. There has been a spiritual change in both of us of almost epic proportions, and we are both completely floored by the severity of the transition. Both of us believe that God has His hand in this; that offends the sensibilities of some here, and that is ok to just agree to disagree and leave it at that. For us, there are far too many coincidences to assign random chance to the situation. For those of you who believe in Jesus, you understand when I say that we are just 100% convicted that He has, once again, shown us that His plan does not always happen in our time desires. For those that do not or choose not to understand, the only way I can describe it is as if some force opened our eyes to truths we should have known but subconsciously chose to repress.
Tough times make for tough people, I guess. But even the toughest man needs an outlet, and you all, be it fortunately or unfortunately depending on your give-a-damn meter, are it.
Fifteen years ago, Brandy was diagnosed with uterine cancer-positive polyps. This means, basically, the simplest form of cancer: the polyps are growths inside the uterine tract or the uterus itself, and they snip those off to test them in an outpatient surgery. It is little different than is a colonoscopy in terms of a little snake thingy with a camera they insert up your... well, you know. This one has a small set of shears and *SNIP* and off goes the polyp. They remove suspected ones and test others to ensure they are benign (cancer free) and that it that. Catching cancer early enough results in this procedure.
Brandy's, unfortunately, is back with a ferocity. She gets regular tests every six months, the last being six months ago almost to the date. It was positive. The last was negative. It took everyone by complete surprise.
Over the past few months, she's been undergoing further testing. This is a huge part of why she left me, though unbeknown to me at the time - she couldn't handle the stress of that coupled with living with a drunk any longer. For those speculating, that is not the reason I got sober a month ago. That was for me and only me. But I am blessed to be over one month sober and here for the woman I love more than life itself. That Brandy is also a recovering alcoholic/addict only adds to the timing and importance of support of my decision.
Anyway, the identifying battery of tests concluded Sunday with her final CT Scans and X-Rays and all that other crap. I've spent more time in waiting rooms at the VA (Veterans Administration) than I have at home this last month, it seems (not true, just seems like it). Here is the verdict in, as far as we know right now, its totality:
Brandy's cancer is again uterine. Cancer of the uterus. She will be going in for a full hysterectomy, which is different than a partial as they remove the ovaries, as well. The good news with that is that she will avoid early menopause, which is not the joke us men make about it (Brandy is 35). Imagine someone cutting off your testicles, guys, and you losing all your testosterone-making ability. And that is the bad news: because they have to remove her ovaries, she can never make estrogen again, meaning she'll be on estrogen treatment for life. She's already had a tubular, so there isn't even any good news for me about unprotected sex - we've been having that since we met.
Unfortunately, the bad news didn't stop there. Sunday's tests positively concluded the following in the next post, as this is too long for a single post:
Long post ahead. Tired eyes beware. And, yes, this thread is about my personal real life. I know that meets with disapproval from many, so feel free to click that funny little link of your choice that navigates you away from this particular thread and carry on.
My wife's results are in, and she has cancer. This thread is to keep you all updated on the happenings if you are interested. Consider it my outlet thread, not a whining thread, please. I'm sure I will have my bouts of whining, but...
One thing to know before this seeming dissertation erupts is that, 32 days ago, I gave up the bottle. No VA, no help. Just decided I was tired of it. Now I know why God gave me such peace in my decision.
Most of you know that I could be facing the same thing, but thus far everything seems to be checking out with me. I have another test upcoming, but they believe the problem "down there" with me is a non-prolapsing hemorrhoid that is pretty easy to remove. I guess that can cause severe testicle pain. <shrug> I am no doctor.
My wife, unfortunately, has not fared so well. In a way, this has made our relationship stronger than it ever has been. We used to treat our marriage as granted - we've both done our share of walking away from each other only to come back. It's different this time, but not for the cancer reasons alone. There has been a spiritual change in both of us of almost epic proportions, and we are both completely floored by the severity of the transition. Both of us believe that God has His hand in this; that offends the sensibilities of some here, and that is ok to just agree to disagree and leave it at that. For us, there are far too many coincidences to assign random chance to the situation. For those of you who believe in Jesus, you understand when I say that we are just 100% convicted that He has, once again, shown us that His plan does not always happen in our time desires. For those that do not or choose not to understand, the only way I can describe it is as if some force opened our eyes to truths we should have known but subconsciously chose to repress.
Tough times make for tough people, I guess. But even the toughest man needs an outlet, and you all, be it fortunately or unfortunately depending on your give-a-damn meter, are it.
Fifteen years ago, Brandy was diagnosed with uterine cancer-positive polyps. This means, basically, the simplest form of cancer: the polyps are growths inside the uterine tract or the uterus itself, and they snip those off to test them in an outpatient surgery. It is little different than is a colonoscopy in terms of a little snake thingy with a camera they insert up your... well, you know. This one has a small set of shears and *SNIP* and off goes the polyp. They remove suspected ones and test others to ensure they are benign (cancer free) and that it that. Catching cancer early enough results in this procedure.
Brandy's, unfortunately, is back with a ferocity. She gets regular tests every six months, the last being six months ago almost to the date. It was positive. The last was negative. It took everyone by complete surprise.
Over the past few months, she's been undergoing further testing. This is a huge part of why she left me, though unbeknown to me at the time - she couldn't handle the stress of that coupled with living with a drunk any longer. For those speculating, that is not the reason I got sober a month ago. That was for me and only me. But I am blessed to be over one month sober and here for the woman I love more than life itself. That Brandy is also a recovering alcoholic/addict only adds to the timing and importance of support of my decision.
Anyway, the identifying battery of tests concluded Sunday with her final CT Scans and X-Rays and all that other crap. I've spent more time in waiting rooms at the VA (Veterans Administration) than I have at home this last month, it seems (not true, just seems like it). Here is the verdict in, as far as we know right now, its totality:
Brandy's cancer is again uterine. Cancer of the uterus. She will be going in for a full hysterectomy, which is different than a partial as they remove the ovaries, as well. The good news with that is that she will avoid early menopause, which is not the joke us men make about it (Brandy is 35). Imagine someone cutting off your testicles, guys, and you losing all your testosterone-making ability. And that is the bad news: because they have to remove her ovaries, she can never make estrogen again, meaning she'll be on estrogen treatment for life. She's already had a tubular, so there isn't even any good news for me about unprotected sex - we've been having that since we met.
Unfortunately, the bad news didn't stop there. Sunday's tests positively concluded the following in the next post, as this is too long for a single post:
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