Much better to be clear and direct. That is your first piece of advice learned right here in this thread. Next, to your redirected question. Its simple, you have two ears... LISTEN to everything you are told and do what they tell you even if you dont understand, one mouth... SOUND OFF like you got a pair and don't mince words.
Be in the best shape of your life physically and it will be less physically painful. Then again, chicks dig scars and you're young, you'll heal.