Please tell me why guys think they can flirt with a girl, constantly tell her he loves her, even look her up and down a lot, and yet not want to go out with you?

because men dont always think with the big head, if you know what i mean

Because we can

Well why can't you find something else to do. It pisses us off when you mess with us like that.

o c'mon, i flirt with all of my girlfriends...and they dont mind, because they like other guys, and they know i know that, gotta do something during photojournalism....

girls flirt with me all the time and don't want to go out with me, I would call that a tease. So dont make it seem like its only guys.

Originally Posted by NavyBrat88

Please tell me why guys think they can flirt with a girl, constantly tell her he loves her, even look her up and down a lot, and yet not want to go out with you?

Since I have done none of those to any girl, I will throw my 2 cents into this thread.

I read an interesting column by some girl a year or 2 ago that relates to your issue. She wrote that the nice guys are the ones that do not "persue" girls. They are the ones that sit back and do not take part in such games. My memory is hazy beyond this point. I know she made it clear that the nice guys do not hit on the girls.

Anyways, I don't think I have ever really tried to "hit on a girl" in my life. I have always just lived life as normal and met girls respectfully along the way. Now comes to the interesting part. One girl I met declared I was being nice because I was trying to "get some." How in the world is a guy suppose to defend that. Do girls want guys to be holes? One of my female friends said I was such a good guy while she went after the bad ones...which lead me to believe nice guys funnish last. But I am married, so I guess nice guys win in the end.

If you walk away with anything from my ramblings, ignore the guys who are in hot persuit of you. The nice ones lurk in the background, away from the games.

NOTE: I normally stay away from such topics as relationships unless I am addressing those who are being disrespectful. I can see this thread going that way. To all my fellow guys who I have alienated, use tact in your responses.

Doody

Methinks the young lady doth protest too much.

Young girls think a guy is cold if he does NOT look and a sex fiend if he DOES look.

I hate to tell ya gals, but ya can't have it both ways. Make up your minds.

Well what if he says he loves her, but do not dare to take her out as he fears what his friends will say? Teenage embarrassment? Else I share opinon with Doody.

Well fellas, look at this way. We're damned if we do and damned if we don't. Chief, you hit the nail on the head. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

If you like the boy tell him. The worst he can say is no. The best you can hope for is that he was too shy to actually do anything about it, and you've just made it easier for him.