Originally Posted by greenarmy1980

You all have been a great help in helping me understand the dynamics of raising a child. Unfortunately the relationship did not work out once she found out that I may be deployed again real soon. I am just glad it happened now and not while I was on deployment.

So how about the baby Green? If I can ask of course.

Originally Posted by Italian Guy

Yeah. We get on with each other, hunny

At least we're not "hooking up." I recently found out what that means in today's jargon.

The child mentioned is four years old and I took him outside and we played Army and stuff, I think he will do fine with whomever his mother chooses to date, he seems really bright and easy going.

Originally Posted by greenarmy1980

The child mentioned is four years old and I took him outside and we played Army and stuff, I think he will do fine with whomever his mother chooses to date, he seems really bright and easy going.

I hope for the best.

I pray for the kid also

Children do definitly learn by example.I try to remain calm with my kids(3) and show them that they will receive more positive attention from good behaviour than bad. Keep punishment short and back it up with positive reusurance.

Thanks for all the input. I have used some and it is working rather well.

I know this may be a little late, but one thing to think is there is nothin wrong with healthy fear. I do not beat my kids but I do believe in a swat if they need it. One thing is I do not have to, they know and do not want to get swatted. But there also is a difference between scared to death and a respectful fear.

Raising children is like riding a bike. Nobody can really explain how its done it just comes naturally and yes you might fall off now and again but eventually you just find your own way and it happens instinctively and you wonder why you were ever concerned in the first place.
As far as teenagers go(I have 2) my method is to have instilled a work ethic into them.
In this materialistic world kids want certain things.
I make my boys do chores to earn money for everything from bus fares to visit freinds,money to go to cinema or swimming,fees to attend martial arts clubs and cadets and even clothes and training shoes.
Misbehaviour is punished with appropriate fines and it seems to work as their behaviour is exemplary.
As far as young children go I dont think the fear of a smack is a bad thing but that is how it should be.such a rare occurence that just the fear is enough to curb misbehaviour.
Love and kindness balanced with them knowing whos boss.

My girlfriend takes char of the children and I´m taking char of my weapon and the boys in my team.
and when i´m old the children can take char of me.
Isen´t that a good idea