|July 25th, 2009||#1|
deployed soldiers cheating wife info
My brother is in the Army and currently in Iraq but stationed in Texas and his home town is in Mass.
So,he got married in Sept of 2008 in Mass and just found out that his wife has been cheating on him with some civilian since he has been in Iraq.
He has an email she wrote apologizing for cheating and how she cant change whats already happened yada yada yada....
So what he is trying to find out is can he divorce her based on her adultery and is this email helpful as proof and is he still required to give her this BAH money? She keeps instant messaging him and telling him she wont start divorce proceedings until she gets money!
He is so stressed out and angry over there that he's determined to do prison time if the military trys to make him pay her anything now!! How long would a divorce take and can he start it while he's over there even? And does this sound like it will be difficult for him and she will come out ahead or what??
ANY info would be greatly appreciated!!!
The whole family is new to this military stuff since he joined and I'm afraid we are all feeling very stupid and don't know what websites give valid information on this stuff, let alone understanding any of it!!
I won't have access to come back to this site for a while so would you please email instead?
My email is Shayz081001@aol.com
Thanks again for any help on this issue
Sister to a betrayed brother
Last edited by tomtom22; July 26th, 2009 at 23:37..
|July 25th, 2009||#2|
|July 26th, 2009||#4|
Best thing for him to do is get adivce from JAG while he is here in Iraq... (yes, I am here as well)...
He won't be able to file until he get's back, but what he needs to do now is, open a new bank account and move his entire paycheck over to it. Once there, he has to set up an allotment to get his spouce BAH. That's the legal thing...
He also needs to enroll in LifeLock and lock down his credit. He will also need to watch it like a hawk.
Biggest thing... he needs to go talk to JAG.
|July 26th, 2009||#5|
First stop, JAG. Second stop, Chaplain.
"The purpose of fighting is to win. There is no possible victory in defense. The sword is more important than the shield and skill is more important than either. The final weapon is the brain. All else is supplemental." - John Steinbeck
|July 27th, 2009||#7|
First he should do it´s sending her a photo where he is wearing a viking helmet with the biggest horns he can find and a dental teeth brush spot smile and all his friends pointing their thumbs up, then in the letter let her know how much he thanks that wonderful opportunity to break that wedding, because he had make the bigger mistake mistake with her.
That will f**k her more even than divorcing. Of course going on whith the wise advices given here by rest of forists.
|July 27th, 2009||#8|
Question: Does he know someone in the area?
If so he could send a surprize guest to the adress.
Make sure the guest have experience in leaving no trail.
Disclaimer: That is in no way behaviour I condone.....
For him: JAG, Chaplain, Team mates in that order.
"We are the pilgrims, Master
We shall go always a little further,
it may be beyond the last blue mountain barred with snow,
Across that angry or glimmering sea..."
|July 27th, 2009||#9|
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if he was in demolitions he could make the ending of their relationship a bit flashy and spicy!
with love from a Russian man.
send her to Russian. we usally dig a grave and bury the removed alive! :P
btw tell the bro to tell her he forgives her and so on that everything is fine so she has no susspision while he cuts the money flow and everything else.
make things real but not overly, let him stay sad and mad but tell her he loves her and bla bla bla otherwise she might do some **** too to make things hard for him.
Last edited by AFSteliga; August 3rd, 2009 at 13:21.. Reason: Triple posting, and inappropriate language
|July 27th, 2009||#10|
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