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July 25th, 2009   #1
shayz081001
 

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Could someone help with some information please?
My brother is in the Army and currently in Iraq but stationed in Texas and his home town is in Mass.
So,he got married in Sept of 2008 in Mass and just found out that his wife has been cheating on him with some civilian since he has been in Iraq.
He has an email she wrote apologizing for cheating and how she cant change whats already happened yada yada yada....
So what he is trying to find out is can he divorce her based on her adultery and is this email helpful as proof and is he still required to give her this BAH money? She keeps instant messaging him and telling him she wont start divorce proceedings until she gets money!
He is so stressed out and angry over there that he's determined to do prison time if the military trys to make him pay her anything now!! How long would a divorce take and can he start it while he's over there even? And does this sound like it will be difficult for him and she will come out ahead or what??
ANY info would be greatly appreciated!!!
The whole family is new to this military stuff since he joined and I'm afraid we are all feeling very stupid and don't know what websites give valid information on this stuff, let alone understanding any of it!!
I won't have access to come back to this site for a while so would you please email instead?
My email is Shayz081001@aol.com
Thanks again for any help on this issue
Sherri,
Sister to a betrayed brother

Last edited by tomtom22; July 26th, 2009 at 23:37..
 
July 25th, 2009   #2
Chukpike
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by shayz081001
Could someone help with some information please?
My brother is in the Army and currently in Iraq but stationed in Texas and his home town is in Mass.
So,he got married in Sept of 2008 in Mass and just found out that his wife has been cheating on him with some civilian since he has been in Iraq.
He has an email she wrote apoligizing for cheating and how she cant change whats already happened yada yada yada....
So what he is trying to find out is can he divorce her based on her adultry and is this email helpful as proof and is he still required to give her this BAH money? She keeps instant messaging him and telling him she wont start divorce proceedings until she gets money!
He is so stressed out and angry over there that he's determinded to do prison time if the military trys to make him pay her anything now!! How long would a divorce take and can he start it while he's over there even? And does this sound like it will be difficult for him and she will come out ahead or what??
ANY info would be greatly appreciated!!!
The whole family is new to this military stuff since he joined and I'm afraid we are all feeling very stupid and don't know what websites give valid information on this stuff, let alone understanding any of it!!
I won't have access to come back to this site for a while so would you please email instead?
My email is Shayz081001@aol.com
Thanks again for any help on this issue
Sherri,
Sister to a betrayed brother
He really only needs to go see the legal Officer of his unit. He will help him proceed. If they get divorced and have no children all allowances for Dependants will be cut off. Depending on the state they live in there will probably be no alimony. He needs to see the Legal Officer as soon as possible, believe it or not the military will help him. Since this is not that uncommon in the military they know their stuff.
 
July 26th, 2009   #3
A Can of Man
 
 
Yeah good luck.
If there's any good news to be said, the military has a lot of experience dealing with this particular scenario so they'll know what to do.
 
July 26th, 2009   #4
Team Infidel
 
 
Best thing for him to do is get adivce from JAG while he is here in Iraq... (yes, I am here as well)...

He won't be able to file until he get's back, but what he needs to do now is, open a new bank account and move his entire paycheck over to it. Once there, he has to set up an allotment to get his spouce BAH. That's the legal thing...

He also needs to enroll in LifeLock and lock down his credit. He will also need to watch it like a hawk.

Biggest thing... he needs to go talk to JAG.


 
July 26th, 2009   #5
bulldogg
 
 
First stop, JAG. Second stop, Chaplain.


"The purpose of fighting is to win. There is no possible victory in defense. The sword is more important than the shield and skill is more important than either. The final weapon is the brain. All else is supplemental." - John Steinbeck
 
July 26th, 2009   #6
shayz081001
 

i appreciate the help!! info


Thank you guys so much for the advice!!
 
July 27th, 2009   #7
Solideo
 
First he should do its sending her a photo where he is wearing a viking helmet with the biggest horns he can find and a dental teeth brush spot smile and all his friends pointing their thumbs up, then in the letter let her know how much he thanks that wonderful opportunity to break that wedding, because he had make the bigger mistake mistake with her.

That will f**k her more even than divorcing. Of course going on whith the wise advices given here by rest of forists.



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July 27th, 2009   #8
KJ
 
 
Question: Does he know someone in the area?
If so he could send a surprize guest to the adress.
Make sure the guest have experience in leaving no trail.

Disclaimer: That is in no way behaviour I condone.....

For him: JAG, Chaplain, Team mates in that order.

//KJ.


"We are the pilgrims, Master
We shall go always a little further,
it may be beyond the last blue mountain barred with snow,
Across that angry or glimmering sea..."
 
July 27th, 2009   #9
IIyx
 
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if he was in demolitions he could make the ending of their relationship a bit flashy and spicy!


with love from a Russian man.

send her to Russian. we usally dig a grave and bury the removed alive! :P

btw tell the bro to tell her he forgives her and so on that everything is fine so she has no susspision while he cuts the money flow and everything else.

make things real but not overly, let him stay sad and mad but tell her he loves her and bla bla bla otherwise she might do some **** too to make things hard for him.

Last edited by AFSteliga; August 3rd, 2009 at 13:21.. Reason: Triple posting, and inappropriate language
 
July 27th, 2009   #10
bulldogg
 
 

Quote:
Originally Posted by IIyx
btw tell the bro to tell her he forgives her and so on that everything is fine so she has no susspision while he cuts the money flow and everything else.

make things real but not overly, let him stay sad and mad but tell her he loves her and bla bla bla otherwise she might do some **** too to make things hard for him.
She's already playing with a loaded gun... best thing she could do is STFU and melt into the wall at this point... but doesn't seem she's none too bright thus far.
 



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