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Originally Posted by the_13th_redneck Clayc... it's because when you were punished it was not one that was administered by rule and fairness, rather out of emotion.
When I did something bad and got punished for it, I felt bad about what I did. Did I plan on revenge? No I didn't because I knew I got what I deserved. Now how did I get to that point? Because at first, physical punishment was used (not always spanking) but that learned me to give them my ear, then I heard the reasons and it all made sense.
I was just a kid but it made sense.
As for the below:
2) Never yell or scream at your child. It indicates that YOU have lack of self
control. Instead use "Command Voice" and a threatening intonation like a TI
does.
3) Never curse your child, someday you will pay for it.
4) After scolding your child, demand that the child explain back to you what was wrong and WHY it was wrong. This will clear up a LOT of misunderstandings.
5) When your child is good, offer praise as positive feedback.
I am in agreement.
The DI voice does wonders. It works brilliantly.
I am seeing unparalleled success in my classrooms because I chose not to forget the lessons I learned as a child and lessons I learned in the Marines and I have applied it to my classes.
It is an outstanding success so far... and so much so that there is pressure to either transfer or fire me because it "makes other teachers nervous." |
I am glad to see your agreement on this subject. I was punished often (usually unfairly) as a young child, which left its mark on me by a determination to do better if I ever have children. I understand as an adult how the pressures of raising six children on a workman's wage caused my parents very great stress, but they should have tried the carrot more often rather than the stick to modify our behavior. When parents are old and grey they suffer the revenge of their children by being neglected. What goes around comes around.....
It is too bad about your problems as a teacher. The Peter principle applies quite often to schools, i.e. that administrators are chosen from those with an education degree who are themselves incapable of effectively teaching....
Lonnie Courtney Clay