| This is an interesting debate. I used to say it depends on how you were raised ETC ETC. However my brother and I have completely different perspectives. My brother believes he should wait for Ms. Right and hope that her first name isn't Always. I will offer my take on this topic. When you get married you want to find someone you want to spend your life with. We all want that special someone. However it isn't just emotional, I would not want to get married to someone who I was blind to "physically." When I say compatable I don't mean exactly alike. A relationship like many friendships NEEDS conflict to survive. It is just a fact. I am not saying all out WAR here but a certain amount of objectivity is healthy. I also believe that I am young man, 24, my brother is 19. He has no VICES in which I complement in regularly on. However when you are young you have a kind of get out of jail free care so to speak. This is when society expects you to screw up, and learn from your mistakes. Because when he reaches 35-40 years old I think he may look back and wish he had done more with his youth. I am not saying doing stupid stuff but living life a little.
As far as the Virgin wife goes I would not want to have one. Unless of course that love bug bit me and I fell head over heels for her. You can't explain love but hey it happens. I would not want one for the reason that I want to be absolutely sure that I was the perfect match for her Physically and emotionally. Now many people are different, then can go with not knowing but if a person is going to be a match for me they are going to have an insatiable curiosity and I would want it fulfilled prior to marriage. |