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Originally Posted by Insight If any are cute ask them out and promise them promotion. |
I hope that’s a joke.
As for cold shoulder, you have to be careful with that because you can make them disrespect you even more. It isn't a thing of "showing them who's boss", I have seen too many NCOs walk in and out of this program with that mentality. The only people who really gave them respect were people just like them, and then others just feared them. Yes, I know, we should let them know whose boss, but there’s better ways at doing that. They should fear you in the sense that they know if you say "I will take this to my Commander", then they know you will do it. But at the same time they need to know that you are a human as well, and that you care. I made the mistake of yelling at my cadets, telling them who’s boss, and being just plain rude, but it didn't work. Half of them are on staff- but they still don't like me. The other half quit, and when someone talks about me to them they just remember that girl who bossed them around.
You should always show your cadets a level of respect (or anyone for that matter). Some people just won’t behave or listen to you which is a fact of life. So gain the respect of the cadets that do follow you and maybe peer pressure will get the others to follow. If not maybe they need to be in another flight.
I don't mean be the best friend, but don't blow them off. Be sturn, don't make idol threats, get ride of the word "please" in your vocablary, and stand your ground.
And once again, don't make you chain of command the last resort. The key to any group is communication at all levels.