Maybe you have misunderstood what I meant.
I meant that you cannot avoid doing something that you don't enjoy to do, and that you have to actively put yourself into situations you don't like.
For example, you don't like to cook but in order to cook,
you take cooking classes.
You don't like learning Chinese, you put yourself into the Chinese class.
By doing or putting yourself into the situations like that, you will hate the classes but it will benefit you later on.