You don't really have a choice in the matter, do you? Ya can't help suffering third degree burns in a house fire, can you? You don't have to like something in life- you just have to do it, and do it well. Everyone has their own breaking point and there's usually just so much life can throw at them. We all benefit from a little character, no doubt about it. I guess the question now is, "Do you really want to get character, or get screwed over when everything goes totally south because you opted out of character?"