And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys donít seem to get laid as often as they should.
If that's what you're after, I'd have to go ahead and say you're not being a "nice guy," you're just going about getting what you want in a different (and less successful) way. If you're after getting "laid," then just be straight forward about it.
I have a couple buddies who always whine and moan about how abused they, as "nice guys," are by every girl they let take advantage of them, but the problem isn't the girls, these fellows need to sack up, realize that letting a girl walk all over them isn't being "nice," it's being used, and that standing up for your principles and treating females with the proper respect and dignity does not involve becoming a whipping boy.
Treating others in a respectful manner is something you should do because it is right, not because you expect to get something out of it from someone, because you very rarely will.